How to introduce sex toys into your relationship

Good communication is where you need to start.

How to introduce sex toys into your relationship
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Everyone's experience of sex toys is a bit different, but if you're in a relationship and looking to spice things up a bit, then exploring the options available can be a lot of fun - especially when you do it together.

But if your bedroom has so far been a sex-toy-free zone, how do you have the conversation to see if it's something that your partner would be up for?

Get visual

Try watching some erotica that includes the use of toys. Talk about the toys being used, encourage some discussion about what might feel good and what you might like to try.

Get suggestive

Double-entendres with dildo-shaped vegetables can go a long way to getting you both giggling about what you could handle. Normalising discussions about the fun you could have with toys is a great way to take the pressure of sex-toys as something shameful.

Get shopping

Even if you're a long way from a woman-friendly sex-toy shop, start exploring online shopping options. Do it together so you can discuss the different types of toys, check out the prices, and start developing a short-list of what you'd like in your shopping cart.

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