Is she into me?
Simple tests to figure out if you've got a connection going on.
You meet someone, she's cool, you think you're getting a vibe, but how can you be sure if she's into you or just being friendly?
1. Dissect the flirtation
If it feels like she's flirting with you, try and determine whether the way she interacts with you is different from the way she interacts with others. Is she flirting with you specifically, or does she kind of flirt with everyone?
2. Physicality
If it feels like she's touching you a lot, in sort of an intimate way, try and assess whether she's a naturally tactile kind of person.
The eye-contact, the touches on the hand, the body contact, the easy familiarity - is that just something that she does with you or is she tactile with everyone that she interacts with?
3. Closeness
What are your social interactions like? Is she arranging to spend time with you one-on-one or do you only ever see her in group situations?
What's the context of your time together? Are you hanging out just because it's nice to hang out, or are you getting together to talk about work or a project that you're both involved in?
4. She’s on Team You
This can be a bit tricky to figure out, but it's helpful to have an understanding of how she talks about you. How does she describe you to others? Does she stick up for you or encourage you if you need a bit of extra motivation?Attention
5. Attention
Do you feel like her attention is drawn to you? Do you notice that her eyes are on you more than others - especially when she doesn't know that she's looking at you?
Is she listening attentively to what you have to say? Is she laughing at your jokes?
5. The direct approach
It can be a bit of a bold move but often the easiest way to figure out if someone is into you is to ask them.
Try and use language that's unambiguous - if you ask her if she wants to meet up for a coffee, that's less definitive than saying something like: "Hey, I'm really enjoying spending time with you - would you be up for going on a date together sometime?"
Sure, you might find out that she's not that into you after all, but it's worth a shot, right?
